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Online dating is when people meet and decide to date over the internet. With the coming of the internet, people could chat online and keep in touch and with time chatting online led to people dating online. Subsequently, internet sites specific to this need have come up. These days, people find it easier to meet mates online than face to face. Individuals are being more receptive to this kind of dating though it has its naysayers. The internet is not hampered by geographical or physical boundaries. The prospect of meeting exciting people and curiosity that often accompanies meeting new people makes online dating an attractive option. It has completely changed and revolutionized the way people meet their dating desires (Coffey, 2007).
The popularity of online dating keeps growing every day. Everyone who practices online dating is looking someone they are compatible with and can carry on a relationship with. Before, a person could go to a public place where he has a chance of meeting a partner. With online dating, that place is only a log-in away. In addition, individuals can explain themselves better online by writing about themselves on their profiles and providing information for those who may be interested. The can emphasize on their unique and strong points and describe themselves creatively.
As a result, information about people is available. People can take their time and find out as much information as they want before making a final decision. Individuals can now choose partners who share their likes and dislikes. Individuals can choose the type of partners they want and also the kind of relationship they want to have with them. Whether someone is looking for marriage, the occasional hook up, dating or fulfillment of other desires, the internet has a vast variety of preferences for everyone's taste.
Online dating is not time-bound. People can chat and meet late in the night without reservations about the time and place. Working class individuals who are busy all day have time to meet with others whenever they want. Also there is opportunity to meet people you may never have known in life. Dating between people of different races and walks of life is on the rise since mingling is on the internet is not bound by culture, tradition, religion of peer pressure, but rather by people's preferences.
People are often nervous about making moves on the people they like. The awkwardness of first meetings and uncomfortable feelings are eased by online dating. Most people prefer to meet online before meeting face to face. This makes meeting face to face easier for the parties involved since they understand their preferences before they meet. As simple as it is to meet, it is mirrored in break-ups too. Ending relationships is easier online. People who are still getting to know each other online may not be as emotionally attached and can break-up without any serious problems.
Traditional dating is random and may have plenty of obstacles before one meets someone they can have a lasting relationship with. Online dating services like find your foreign husband, adult friend finder and perfect partners int, are some of the sites where people can subscribe to find dates. The awkward question of "are you in a relationship" is not applicable since everyone on these sites is there to find companionship of some type.
There is great ease in vetting the people you meet online. You get a rough idea of what they look like, you also have some idea of how they think, you can e-mail each other and talk on the phone and you don't have to meet if you're still not sure about them. You can also work through numerous prospects without being offensive. For instance, if you were looking for a relationship face to face and you kept changing your dates, people might think ill of you but, when doing the same thing online, no one knows. Also it is more cost effective than going on face to face dates many times. The online dating scent has a limitless supply on people. Individuals opt for this kind of dating because of the vast and exciting variety and opportunity presented. People are free to show their personalities because they know that there will be someone out there who will like what they read. Face to face dating is also complemented by online dating and couples who met face to face also keep in touch online and communicate more frequently (Fiore, 2008).
Though online dating has improved the dating scene by offering variety for everyone, others with ill intentions also use these sites for their own ill gain. It is difficult for one to tell whether a person is really who they say they are. The intent of lying on profiles may not be ill but, when it is, someone could be roped into a situation that may prove dangerous. For instance, one may be dating a criminal who will conveniently leave left that piece of information from his profile and also change his picture. By the time you find out, it may be too late.
Also, one may be attracted to someone's personality online but when they meet, there may be other factors that may not be visible online. For instance, factors like personal hygiene, funny mannerisms, facial expressions and eating habits. Online dating is also limited to people who have plenty of time to spend on the computer. This restricts the people one can meet to those who are available online only (Hancock, Toma, & Ellison, 2007).
Other than that, people may also lie about their ages to the extreme. A 60 year old woman may say that she's 25 or a 70 year old man could say that he's 35. It may convince others making them waste time on getting to know this individual only for it to break when they meet. There are certain rules or commandments that one should keep in mind while dating online. One should take care not to get hooked by spending too much time online. Also, people should be vague about the information they provide about themselves online but they should be honest about the information they give. People should also be patient and not rush into things whenever they feel excited. People should also be careful not to be roped in by sites asking for payment and by tests to help look for perfect partners. When convinced by information online, one should move to make contact in a public place to verify the information and assess the other party. Also, people should involve their friends and let them know about what has been happening so that they can be there to help if needed (Hancock, Toma, & Ellison, 2007).
Selecting someone to be in a relationship with is a very serious part of life that should be done carefully and most effectively. The benefits of online dating are numerous. Any type of dating has its drawbacks and it is up to people to choose that which works best for them. Individuals should strive to be as honest as they can while dating online and also be wise to tricks that people may use. The dating scene has changed with most people having jobs that keep them busy. It is a tool that is helping people be more comfortable and happier in their personal lives.